Let's consider a situation. As 'situations' happen all the time anyway. If I'm missing a feeling of clarity, of rightness, of flow, I'm checking these few things:
How is this self love?
How does this shows self respect?
Does it really follow my heart?
Is it appropriate to act? If yes, how?
Usually, answering these questions brings back the inner alignment. Also, it gives me clarity on how am I respecting other/s involved in the situation. And by respecting others I mean really respecting their decisions, even if those decisions doesn't match my thinking and/or feeling.
Is it always easy? Not necessarily. But hey, do you wanna be happy? Or something?